January 7th, 2008 cate
It’s a known fact that the power of positivity has had amazing beneficial effects on people. Studies have shown that positive people tended to be in better health throughout their lives, and well, face it, more likable. I mean, who likes a grump?? Not me. There’s nothing worse than a sourpuss with an attitude problem but it’s never too late to change so here are some tips to keep you on sunnier side of life, the glass is half full and the YES team:
1. When you find yourself having a terribly negative attitude leading to grumpville, slap yourself with a large trout. (figuratively speaking, of course) Just stop yourself. It’s you who has control over your emotions. If you cannot control your own emotions, seek professional help.
2. During these times of unpleasant thoughts, try to examine WHY you feel that way. What is the evidence and proof that you should be able to feel this way. If you can find vast reasons to substantiate your negative feelings and attitudes, try to beckon your compassion. Try to laugh. Try to smile and even force yourself to think the opposite. How? Just understanding you’ll feel better, should be a great incentive.
3. When jumping into negative attitudes, try to conjure up different scenarios for why something is happening. Try to envision that all is happening for a better future outcome. Imagine that things will get better. Example: You break your leg on the ski slope. No one is immediately around to help you so help is delayed. Don’t jump into the conclusion that you’ll die. Don’t jump to the conclusion that your leg won’t heal correctly. Look for reasons that will help you not to do that again! Maybe you need ski lessons. 
You know that won’t happen again. That’s positive, right?!
4. Think about a positive attitude as much as you can, if not all the time. Even say out loud, “I have a positive attitude!” Words are powerful and you’ll be amazed at how that can change your life.
5. Remember that a positive attitude makes you feel good. ‘Nuf said.
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December 16th, 2007 cate
Don’t mean to nag but I wanted to mention gentlly that Christmas is in 9 DAYS! Here are some gift ideas for people who care about and are interested in mind, body and spirit. This short list is hugely far from being complete and it’s always hard to make a selection. I know I should’ve listed more but I’ll try to come up with more suggestions as time goes on. This time around, I tried to include a variety of subjects. Hope this is helpful to you:
Food
Organic Nut Harvest Basket
– 4 oz Organic Almonds, 4 oz Organic Trailmix, 4 oz Organic Butter Toffee Cashews & Peanuts, 4 oz Organic Pistachios in-the-shell, 4 oz Organic Cashews
Italian Cheese Sampler – our cheeses that are typical of four distinct regions of Italy: Toma Piedmontese – Made in the Piedmont region of course, this cheese is surface ripened, meaning it ripens from the rind inward. Toma is a delectable mountain cheese that has a thin rind, a custard-like texture, small pores and a sweet lactic flavor with a gentle bite. Piave Vecchio – Similar to Asiago, Piave Vecchio (aged) is a firm, dry, slightly nutty cheese from the valleys of Northeastern Italy. Mountain Gorgonzola – Italy’s famous blue cheese comes from Lombardy. Made from cow’s milk taken from local herds that graze on beautiful rolling pastures, no Italian Cheese Assortment would be complete without a cut of authentic Gorgonzola. Pecorino Toscano – This soft, sheep’s milk cheese is made in the hills of Tuscany. It is young, sweet and springy. We find that this combination well represents the wide variety of flavors and textures found in Italian cheeses.
Organic Crunch and Munch – Organic butter toffee cashews & peanuts, Sweet organic apples and pears, wholesome organic Pistachios and almonds.
French Cheese Assortment – captures a good bit of French cheese culture with the four cheeses listed below. One is of the “stinky” variety, one is a triple-crème, one is a chèvre, and one is a mountain cheese from the Alps. Buche Chevre: This classic French goat cheese is slightly aged, giving it a lot of character. Formed in the shape of a log (Buche is French for log), enjoy this cheese on salads, as a snack, or with fruit for dessert. Chaource: This decadent triple-creme is delicious at any stage of ripeness and has a slight mushroom scent with a rich, creamy flavor. Pont l’Eveque: This aromatic cheese from Normandy has a creamy, slightly spicy flavor. Pont l’Eveque has an edible reddish crust with a creamy, pale interior. It is an ancient cheese and truly one of the world’s great ones. Gruyère de Comté: Created by local villagers in alpine dairies called “Fruiteries”, its milk comes only from Montbeliarde and Tachete de L’est cows.
Music
Tibetan Meditation Music: For Quiet Mind and Peaceful Heart – Nawang Khechog’s gentleness comes through his music. Soft prayers, spoken and sung, in Tibetan filter up through lovely flute music along with tibetan gong, bells, and the occasional horn. I don’t know what it is exactly about Nawang’s music that relaxes me so completely, but it does and I am so greatful that all I have to do to take a “mini-vacation” is put on this music.
Quiet Mind: The Musical Journey of a Tibetan Nomad – Born of Tibetan nomads, Nawang Khechog discovered in childhood a deep affinity with the bamboo flute. In 1959, he fled to India and spent 11 years as a Buddhist monk before bringing his music to the West. Despite worldwide praise for his work, Nawang resolved in 1991 to return to mountain seclusion – until the Dalai Lama himself encouraged him to continue to share the power of his music with others. Quiet Mind reflects the far-reaching travels of this remarkable musician. It is his most personal transmission, a continuous prayer that imparts serenity to everyone it touches. With didgeridoo, Incan pan pipes, and ocarina.
In a Distant Place – Blend the Native American flute of Nakai with the Tibetan flutes of Khechog along with guitar and harp and you have a ‘best of both worlds’ effect which is original and haunting. The music comes alive and crosses cultures in a group which takes its ethnic roots a step further in a cross-cultural blend.
Tibet: Cry of the Snow Lion – This CD leaves me feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, more spiritually atuned and softened, more peaceful. Yet these words inadequately describe the beautiful sensation that Nawang’s music produces. I believe this music is life changing.
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December 7th, 2007 cate
I’ve been hearing so many great things about the new book, Eat, Pray, Love and thought it would be a good opportunity to share it with you. It could make a nice gift for someone close to you or a gift for yourself! Yes, you deserve a gift, too, you know.
About Eat, Pray, Love:
At the age of thirty-one, Gilbert moved with her husband to the suburbs of New York and began trying to get pregnant, only to realize that she wanted neither a child nor a husband. Three years later, after a protracted divorce, she embarked on a yearlong trip of recovery, with three main stops: Rome, for pleasure (mostly gustatory, with a special emphasis on gelato); an ashram outside of Mumbai, for spiritual searching; and Bali, for “balancing.” These destinations are all on the beaten track, but Gilbert’s exuberance and her self-deprecating humor enliven the proceedings: recalling the first time she attempted to speak directly to God, she says, “It was all I could do to stop myself from saying, ‘I’ve always been a big fan of your work.’”
Click here: Eat, Pray, Love
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December 6th, 2007 cate
1. Take a bath – I have no idea if you’re stinky or if you’re a dirty slob, but I’m talking about a romantic, candle-lit bathroom with the tub filled with fragrant and colorful flower petals. Get some fresh roses, tubaroses, gardenias or some of your favorite flowers and generously sprinkle the bath with them. Invite your honey into a luscious tub he/she cannot resist. Make sure the water is not too hot or too cold.
2. Watch a movie at home together – Rent a romantic comedy or romantic drama or even an erotic film (if you and your partner are up for that kind of thing).
3. Give each other a massage – grab some nice, natural massage oils and treat each other to a sensual massage. Now, where you massage is up to you, I’m just suggesting general ideas.
4. Take the day off work – If both of you can manage to take the same day off of work you can plan to spend a whole day and perhaps the night together (depending on your home life). This is especially great for parents to do while their kids are in school during the day. Plan a gourmet picnic and go to the beach or park or somewhere beautiful. If it’s too cold out, have the picnic in your living room or bedroom…
5. An Evening with Whipped Cream – Need I say more?
6. Feed each other blind-folded. Not blind folded at the same time! Take turns feeding strawberries dipped in quality chocolate and other smooth aphrodisiacs to your blind folded partner. Savor every moment…
7. Read an erotic story to each other – Ok, it doesn’t have to be erotic; it can be a romantic, light story or whatever you’re in the mood for. Your goal is to spend focused, quality time with your mate.
8. Paint each other – Find edible or at least non-toxic body paints, strip down and paint each other! Fun!
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December 1st, 2007 cate
People who can’t let go of grudges and who stay bitter FOREVER, really make me sad. My sister is one of them (luckily she doesn’t know about my blog otherwise she’d hate me. FOREVER.) Anyway. If people could simply forgive and let go of their negative feelings, there’d be so much LESS health problems, grumpiness, hatred and overall bad feelings in this world. Here’s a helpful article about it from the Mayo Clinic.
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward.
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Your mother criticized your parenting skills. Your friend gossiped about you. Your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance. But when you don’t practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Here, Katherine M. Piderman, Ph.D., staff chaplain at Mayo Clinic, Rochester, Minn., discusses forgiveness and how it can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.
What is forgiveness?
There’s no one definition of forgiveness. But in general, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentments and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness is the act of untying yourself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you. This can reduce the power these feelings otherwise have over you, so that you can a live freer and happier life in the present. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Doesn’t forgiving someone mean you’re forgetting or condoning what happened?
Absolutely not! Forgiving isn’t the same as forgetting what happened to you. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life. But forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.
What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
Researchers have recently become interested in studying the effects of being unforgiving and being forgiving. Evidence is mounting that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems. Forgiveness, on the other hand, offers numerous benefits, including:
Lower blood pressure
Stress reduction
Less hostility
Better anger management skills
Lower heart rate
Lower risk of alcohol or substance abuse
Fewer depression symptoms
Fewer anxiety symptoms
Reduction in chronic pain
More friendships
Healthier relationships
Greater religious or spiritual well-being
Improved psychological well-being
Why do we hold grudges and become resentful and unforgiving?
The people most likely to hurt us are those closest to us — our partners, friends, siblings and parents. When we’re hurt by someone we love and trust — whether it’s a lie, betrayal, rejection, abuse or insult — it can be extremely difficult to…”
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